Waiting for fruit | When will writing lessons finally stick?

Waiting for Fruit | Writing Encouragement for Homeschool Moms

My kids have come such a long way in their skills using WriteShop, but they still don’t enjoy writing. It’s still “work” to them, and they’d rather be doing something else. ~Marisa, SD

Fun vs. Fruit

As parents, we toggle between wanting to use a curriculum our kids like (even if it’s less effective) and using something that’s more “work,” yet clearly produces results. For two of my own kids, math was our bugaboo. The “fun” program I used one time set them back a year, so it was back to Saxon for us, even though they didn’t especially like it.

Moment of Clarity

I love when homeschooling moms have an epiphany, that “Aha!” moment when they realize—and accept—that writing does need to be taught, and how this often means sitting with our kids and coaxing the writing out of them.

The wise parent makes the commitment to brainstorm one-on-one with her children as needed, asking leading questions and encouraging them in what they write down. She knows that their efforts would be half-hearted if she left them to work on their own.

Later, when it’s time to write the rough draft, she sometimes needs to go through the process with each one individually as well.

She sticks with her curriculum and holds her kids’ hands—not just for the sake of commitment, but because she sees fruit! Marisa adds:

 Again, I worked with each of the kids individually to get their [brainstorming] done… Though it takes a little more time than I like, the end result is far more satisfying for all of us!

I too have walked in Marisa’s—and your—shoes. When my son finally began working independently in high school, all those hours and hours of side-by-side efforts paid off. I pray they will for you too.




Photo: Danielle Buma, courtesy of Creative Commons.
Tags: patience


  • Posted June 2, 2011

    JoJo Tabares

    When I first brought my dd home from private Christian school in 5th grade to homeschool her, she was used to getting away with not doing her best. See, her teachers all knew she was bright, but they didn’t have much time to concentrate on her as much as the kids who were behind. She was able to get away with less than her best there, but not with me. I knew what she could do. So during her first yr, she developed a song she taught her brother called Mean Mommy. When she got into one of the most elite universities in the US, I asked her if she appreciated Mean Mommy. She did, indeed. Hang in there, Mean Mommies! It’s worth it.

  • Posted June 2, 2011


    Thanks for those added words of wisdom, JoJo. Time and patience do pay off!

  • Posted June 6, 2011

    Nancy Larimer

    Thank you for the encouraging blog. It is hard work and we do lots of brainstorming. He does not like to write. I know over time it will pay off. God bless you!
    Nancy Larimer

  • Posted June 6, 2011


    Thanks, Nancy. You won’t regret the time you spend with your son, even though it’s hard work. Good for you for hanging in there with him!

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  • Posted June 7, 2011


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